I love this. Growing up and learning I was ADD, I always struggled in school and with staying focused on literally anything. My mom and I would but heads often when it came to school work. I distinctly remember a significant improvement in our relationship when she decided to back off. If I failed, then I failed. I took chemistry twice in high school. I learned how to be more responsible and the consequences if I wasn’t. But my relationship with my mom improved the moment she started treating me as an equal instead of someone she had to put in line. I know my particular situation may be a bit different now, but that’s something I remember about how my mom and I worked things out when I was a teenager. I was stubborn, and god bless her soul for putting up with my bullshit.
Thanks Mo! I’ve learned this with Mariela now that she’s about to be 21 but it took waaay too long. The difference is she was more like me … so hard for a parent to stop trying to mold and just sit back and appreciate instead. Thank goodness the world is letting people be themselves … for some that’s too scary but slowly changing with each small act of resistance.
I love this. Growing up and learning I was ADD, I always struggled in school and with staying focused on literally anything. My mom and I would but heads often when it came to school work. I distinctly remember a significant improvement in our relationship when she decided to back off. If I failed, then I failed. I took chemistry twice in high school. I learned how to be more responsible and the consequences if I wasn’t. But my relationship with my mom improved the moment she started treating me as an equal instead of someone she had to put in line. I know my particular situation may be a bit different now, but that’s something I remember about how my mom and I worked things out when I was a teenager. I was stubborn, and god bless her soul for putting up with my bullshit.
Thanks Mo! I’ve learned this with Mariela now that she’s about to be 21 but it took waaay too long. The difference is she was more like me … so hard for a parent to stop trying to mold and just sit back and appreciate instead. Thank goodness the world is letting people be themselves … for some that’s too scary but slowly changing with each small act of resistance.